January 25, 2020

The Real Freedom Fighter

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Thousands of salute to the tricolour
Hats off to Braveheart warriors…
Lost their prideful soul for their occupation
Die with a smile leaving behind on territory corridor…
Work was enjoyed full not always but sometimes threaten,
Carrying loads on an empty stomach for miles it was written.
Phone, messaging and romance was not their job,
Roaming over thousands of nights in the fog.

It Was a First Time On the Beech

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It was the first time hearing
A beech sound pleasuring me
We had travelled distance long miles
On that day I had bad intestine.
 We had five hours of journey
Covered almost 150 km
In three stopped by mini-bus

January 24, 2020

I Asked A Help From A Tree, How Are You Living Like A Legend, But Why Not Me — I Am Just Watching And Talking To you Like A Nerd.

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I was alone with a burden of thousand tension, those tensions could never be solved talking to someone. I thought let's seat under the shadow of the tree. This tree I watch when I pass this road. And whenever I do, while giving me a soft calm sense of the existence of me and my life. When I sit here, I feel all the problem just flew away like an air.
Finally, I made my mind and sat there looking up at it's long and strong branches. It is my favourite and the best tree in the world for me. I feel very relaxed when I approach or think about it. I felt content when I spend at least a few minutes there.

"A mind full of tension could never think beyond its limit but when anyone seeks help from natural things it works."

How you have built strong and fit, gives your shelter to many people and ask in returns nothing, I thought. You have enough strength to fight with this world, how you could manage all the summer and rain? I am feeling that I should finish myself, but when I look at you, I feel I would regret my decision. I am feeling I must live... life is good ahead.

January 23, 2020

I Was So Happy When I Walked into A Hospital

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I was so happy when I walked into a hospital
Rubbed my hand over my nine months womb gentle
I was dreading it since the day I got to know I was pregnant
In this big world staying alone without you at home I can’t
We both husband and wife waiting for this great day
And bought many toys for our future baby
And in a few seconds, we are going to be a parent way
Sudden a jerk shook my body

Fear always attracts more fear until you take a step positive and life is like that only, you have to be brave enough though you are many times looser

It was not too cold, in fact, it was the ending of winter. I woke up at 4 am sharp when ninety percent of the public in deep asleep. I got a bath, dressed up and had my green tea. It was all ready for the weekday’s mission - It was Monday. My shift starts at 6 am and ends at 3. I travel in the morning meet often wild dogs. They chase me for 200 meters minimum. One thing I learned from that incidence, when anytime it happens with you, keep one thing in mind. Do not race with a wild dog, they can injure you very badly.    But you must think what is the best way to keep safe from these dogs? stood there and let them attack you? No, never. Only standing like a statue does not help in this situation. They will really attack you and could cause serious injuries. The wild dogs possess very toxic serum, they eat whatever they get and found very poisonous. Municipal Corporation bus comes sometimes get them on it and extinguish but nowadays dogs are so intelligent. They disappear for a week and again come back.
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It was not too cold, in fact, it was the ending of winter. I woke up at 4 am sharp when ninety percent of the public in deep asleep. I got a bath, dressed up and had my green tea. It was all ready for the weekday’s mission - It was Monday. My shift starts at 6 am and ends at 3. I travel in the morning meet often wild dogs. They chase me for 200 meters minimum. One thing I learned from that incidence, when anytime it happens with you, keep one thing in mind. Do not race with a wild dog, they can injure you very badly.

A Letter to My Mother – I have done struggle inside the womb, not sure how much is outside. Is there hell?



Just a moment, please! Do you think I am safe inside the womb eating food and enjoying all the time? The fact is not at all. I feel every second of you,, experience every happiness and pain of yours. Not only this but whatever you do, it transmits through each and every nerve. When you sit as per your convenient way but you never imagine what’s the best position while you have a baby inside your stomach? You don't feel me cry, but I can feel you when you are sad.


You sleep eating heavy and junk food but it is very hard for me to digest and extract the nutrition from it. When you wake up late, sometimes without bath you go to the office and keep me waiting for food, I have to wake up in an awkward time and what it results? I end up the lack of proper development on the given schedule. You walk more than you need and then I feel like I am in the sky and travelling upside down, I have tiny muscles and that too get tired.





You keep your regular schedules from starting of the day to the end of the day I find nothing changes. When it goes out of my control then I have to kick you to make you aware that - It is enough and someone is inside you. Do you think it is a task? Don’t ever, it is the life that builds your future.

You eat loa t of sugar which troubles me a lot, why don't you go for natural sugar? When you go exposing your stomach to many people in the market or office I could hear them I can't tell you how annoys me. Especially when you go by local train, I feel like I have jumped off the air-plane and I am going to die in a few seconds.

You eat all the non-sense in your lunch, what I need who will tell you? When the doctor says that medicine is important in your pregnancy you just avoids them and bunches of tablets goes waste in the dustbin. You even don't read stories for me, don't go to a temple. If you visit a temple at least once in a week I will get a peace of mind. You always love crowded places and pollution is your favourite.

"You think about yourself, you are selfish - not even about your life partner"

I can't explain how I did feel when you were travelling in the suffocated bus, I thought that someone had placed a pillow on my face. There was no extra room so that I could make free movements in your stomach. You are so risky woman but don't go beyond the limits have a safe journey and these things are for whom? Money?, I Or for yours?




But one thing between you guys I cannot bother at all, you guys are staying away, you broke with my father I should die inside. How long this war will be there and living alone? Now I am worried about whom I will love the most? I could bear anything but not a single fight between you. When you cry louder, while fighting, I pulled my leg so close and tight, I thought something bad had happened with you. I always think outside there is only hell.

Lokesh Umak

Coming back to writing life after months, shelter had made it lost and it is only going to bring to the life again

Hello friend how are you? Hope all of you are doing well.

Thank you for keep visiting my blog Better Aspect, I respect your interest in finding good and inspiring stories here.

I was busy and away for a while due to some important work, I have bought a new flat which was an unfortunate decision not by me but my wife. I had some other dream in terms of having our own house like a bungalow alone in Lavasa so that I could concentrate on my writing things. But all my dream failed and others came in front of me.


At first, I was hesitant to this decision taken by my wife but when I saw the society how it was built and it was near to my dream location. My dream location was a lonely place of the already built raw bungalow in Lavasa, you must have experience luxury if you already visited that place.

The men who love life and has an artistical view in his life those can live their life in Lavasa. Such a nature-loving place. The government has recently banned builder working there, the law says that you have demolished the nature and built bungalows surrounding by hills and a big water pond.



I bought a house in a nearby location and having hills facing the balcony. I will share the picture in my next blog. We are yet to start living there. My office is at the same distance where I am living in Dehu road.


One's integrity of relationship | Loving someone and having sexually attraction to other person. This rising trend in our high society is beneficial for health?

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What is our physical energy?


There is energy in our body that produce every time and ready to transfer from one person to another. That physical energy gets a transfer from you to another when we touch anything. There is an exchange of energy. Touching someone physically for the first time only that point of time you will feel that energy. The more you do the less you survive or it's a joy reduces. That energy remembers you for your lifetime.

If you are giving a session at a seminar and you are a famous personality, because of your fans you shake hands and give hugs each and every person in the audience. You are releasing positive energy took years to store in your body. You will quickly exhaust your energy. In short, you are giving access to an integral part of your body. Keep minimal access to your body from the foreign touch.



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Difference between Joy and Pleasure


Same way loving someone and having a physical relationship with someone that is a choice of one person, but one wishes to keep physical relation with many others, later that person will have pleasure every time he has sex but there will be no joy.

Not only love but every other thing in this universe is enjoyable when you are not a frequent user of someone or something.

Suppose, If I am in a long-distance relationship, work in a metro city and my partner is in hometown. Once in three months, I visit her. There is a different joy that I can't find in every day's meeting with her. Her strong touch will make me a great lover. This is not only in the relationship but I can apply everywhere.

If I visit the Taj Mahal for the first time in my life, I touched those stone, the memory that attached into my body will be forever. The joy is real. What if I work there permanent? I won't feel any special and strong about it. Thus you will be no more keep yourself integral to this place. You have lost the integrity to the Taj-mahal. Hence if you lost your integrity to the sex, you will lose the real joy, the pleasure will be there for sure.

Shaking hands, hugging someone that means you have no integrity to yourself. You are a page of an open book that was read by many people and the importance and the joy of reading has gone.

Having sex with others defines the same way in today's literary world. People start shaking hands, hugging them, some other way they are losing their integrity and joy of life. One must confine their energy.



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Life of a human cycle


The life of any human is defined, the human life cycle completes when the moon does his 1008 cycles. It is divided into three quarters, in the first quarter, exchange of the energy happens from mother to child after that we have to confine it and make it integrated if someone wants to nurture it for the life.

Life becomes hell when there is no joy in life. If any individual did not get that touch from her mother, there is no chance after the first quarter. Why many ancient Indian cultures still are there? Many other spiritual gurus are there who gives you no hugs and handshake. This is the reason why they are the most integrated person.


These lines are from the session of great Sadguru


Possible reasons why boys are not favourite to their fathers | You can simply use these tricks and make a good bond with your daddy or son

We all know that there is the strongest relation between father-daughter, mother-son. In most of the families, the fight over father and son happens due to the weak relationship between them. There are a few reasons I am going to discuss here. I have related and experienced these things from one of my neighbourhoods.

Possible reasons why boys are not favourite to their fathers | You can simply use these tricks and make a good bond with your daddy
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There are some bad habits that daddy follows at the home or his behaviour does not like at all. I have read much news that son killed his father at the age of 21 due to his high drinking habit or some other day I see the news in the newspaper that a working man suicide due to family issues.

There is a neighbour of five members in his family, husband, wife and three sons. Some are graduated, under-grad. Father drinks every day and beat-up his wife. The boys are well matured and one of the boys every next day punch his father and break and bleed the nose. It keeps happening every week. Now his sons are also got the habit of drink and now every one of us has the same question, would his sons go to do the same thing with their spouse?

Rise of these situations only from parent's behaviours, if he could have to control his drinking and provide the best education to his children, It could have been one of the best families in my society.

They’re doings teach our son and daughter a bad thing and it is too late now.

Fighting with spouse


Fighting with wife unnecessary impact on the whole family including son and daughter. Everyone has some kind of bad habits but some they well knew how to control it or does not do inside their home. First of all, these are not supposed to do in front of your kids. If you are doing it willingly then it considered a kind of education that you are giving to your children. Whether you are fighting or drinking young generation captures everything in their mind and they do the same way their father does.

Listening to your boy


Father is one of the respected people in the family, and also expect it at every time but it does not mean you are not going to listen anybody out there. The way you get respect from your family members return it with more pleasure

Exchange the advises and solution


Whenever there are any advice and solution required to buy something or taking any kind of decision in the family, the first person in your family should be your wife and kids rather than asking your close friends outside. If you are giving importance to them next time your son will give the first preference to you only.

I see them no one talks to each other, three different sons have a different mindset and hardly speak to each other. his wife sacrifices and cook a meal at the end of the day but they don't love. The love is missing in the entire family.

Bossy attitude


Showing bossy attitude destroys the family, even royal families have been broken down into pieces. If the family broke, your value in the society becomes less and it signifies big loss.

His dad thinks that he is rich in his family, offers no money, he rules everyone, does no expenses and get beaten up by his own children. Who teaching his family? Father only!

Boss never going to achieve milestone alone.

Listening to no one in the family


Listening and understanding are very important in the family to survive and build good rapport in society. A person who does not listen in his own family members he will never listen to his friends.

If you try to stop fighting him with his wife, he will fight with you, scold you, even slap you. If his son is drunk and beating his father and it is dangerous to stop him, he would anytime start beating you.

That family is difficult to understand and left alone. Nobody bothers about them and the entire family have only anger.

Hold My Hand - Am asking your hand, don't think for the sake of Time pass!

Am asking your hand, don’t think for the sake of time pass!  I want to be with you, forever-ever and world class!  I will stick to you; walk with you, fly and dance!  Care, love, and honesty will my daily work, give me a chance!  What do you thinking, looking at my hand, just Hold My Hand...!   Support you, love you, and kiss you and thousands of hugs for sure not perchance!  All sorrow of you, I want to buy and be the buyer all over the time!  This is the promise I make with you, don’t take me wrong!  Rose in my hand, asking for the true love, do not make me hard and strong!  Down, Standing on knees, Is just a start of my love, looking for opportunity  Accept my rose and Hold My Hand..!
                                                   
Am asking your hand, don’t think for the sake of time pass!
I want to be with you, forever-ever and world class!
I will stick to you; walk with you, fly and dance!
Care, love, and honesty will my daily work, give me a chance!
What do you thinking, looking at my hand, just Hold My Hand...!
Support you, love you, and kiss you and thousands of hugs for sure not perchance!
All sorrow of you, I want to buy and be the buyer all over the time!
This is the promise I make with you, don’t take me wrong!
Rose in my hand, asking for the true love, do not make me hard and strong!
Down, Standing on knees, Is just a start of my love, looking for opportunity
Accept my rose and Hold My Hand..!

Do you know E-Cigarette can cause cancer or it is purely healthy? | India Banned E-Cigarette

Vaping can damage your lung or not, it is you're the first question in the mind. I have read some of the articles and here is my conclusion. Hope I am providing you with some useful information that you can control your smoking and keep yourself healthy.


What is E-Cigarette?




It is a battery-powered device that heat-up the mixture of liquid instant and converts into smoke.

Does C-Cigarette cause cancer?


As per the Washington Post, after study of 200 individuals, vaping related lung illness arising. 354 cases in 29 states. State and federal health authorities focusing on the role of contaminant.

India also has banned the e-cigarette. India today, Read more... It is quite difficult to know the exact and accurate answer.

Why the government of India banned E-cigarette?


Modi and team decided it on Wednesday to ban the production, sale, marketing, import, export, consumption, distribution and transportation of E-cigarette.

As per the news source, India today, E-cigarettes worth $1,91,781 were imported in India between 2016-16 and 2018-19.

The central government has already sent the notice to all the state banning of the E-cigarette, it was a follow-up advisory decision of 2018

BBC News has shown a practical proof in the below video how it is harmful than a normal cigarette.



In short, smoking is a bad habit that kills human, it is just an electronic version of killing people

One must visit this Kailash Temple once in a life

This temple made from only one solid big rock, this rock is Charanandri of Sahyadri Hills and the place once was called Elapura Village. Many tourists visit on weekends and Britishers now call it Ellora temple of Ellora caves. It is purely Shiv Temple, located near Aurangabad.


Cave 16 perticulary features largest single rock excavation in the world, it is dedicated to lord shiva. The sculptures depict gods, goddesses and especially mythologies found in Vaishnavism, Shaktism and summarises the two major Hindu Epics



Ther are more than 100 caves at the site, some of them represent reli12 Buddist, 17 Hindu and 5 Jain. this sacred place is 29 kilometres north-west of Aurangabad and 100 km from Mumbai.

As per Indian history, the temple took almost 18 years to build. The outside wall of the temple has many sculptured statues of many Indian God and Goddess It is a work of holy 7000 worker's beautiful effort to make this possible.

The temple is at the centre and around has U shaped border of many small caves of the same stone. It is a stone of the world's biggest creation of temple in India.

How loss of your time and efforts destroy your money. There is one thing which is more than money.

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The time, efforts and money are interlinked, most of the time we forget to analyse the situation and that impact is huge on our life. finely we end up in the loss of time, money or effort.

Time is Money


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We all know time is equivalent to money. Every day we are in a hurry when we travel because we travel when there is a requirement. Even in the world of technology we often failed to manage the time. You must be thinking how?


When we have a car, we covered the distance of thousands of kilo-meter in two days that we used to do more than ten days by walking. Though we go late or we ride our car in a hurry and finely met with an accident.

When time loss happens?


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We got a habit of not analyzing the things before our actions and the outcomes in our future from the things what we are doing?
Eg: Though we are having a vehicle, we divert our journey from the long way and find a shortcut. That shortcut could save our time almost 1 hour of extra journey. Without analysis, we go by that route which is not well constructed and we end up repairing our car for puncture or result in heavy damage


Efforts need time

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Suppose, one engineer spent his ten years to build a low average fuel car, but that car only carries two people. The pick-up of the car results not that impressive. If he was working and focusing on the average of the car, not on the pick-up then after spending ten years of his life got wasted.
The efforts and time both are interlinked, they work together.


Not knowing exactly what right or wrong


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Most of the people know what to do and what will get the outcomes from the things they are doing. They mostly don't focus on what is right or wrong.
The first and foremost thing is to know what is correct. We make friends and soon falls in love, the main thing is we fail to understand the right person because we don't analyse the things. After what happens? we regret our decision, loss the time and our efforts to sustain the relationships.
What is that thing I am going to talk exactly here is about our brain, it has the power to identify what is wrong and what is right. Everyone has a good amount of brain but we don't use that on the time. If we have used that on the correct time for analysis we could have saved that time, money and efforts

How do you overcome your anger, I saw different people use different techniques | Look what I do

"An angry man is like a frustrated bull of a thousand men power if he did not control his emotions then it could lead him to ruin his life alone. Most of the scenarios our brain stopped functioning at the time of anger attack.

The women have very good techniques, they mostly seen breaking the pots in the kitchen or not cooking food for that entire day, that’s what they can do until their god gifted patience. But men are different, the attachment of their conscious body becomes weaker and they found using their physical body rather using the mind."


"An angry man is like a frustrated bull of a thousand men power if he did not control his emotions then it could lead him to ruin his life alone. Most of the scenarios our brain stopped functioning at the time of anger attack. The women have very good techniques, they mostly seen breaking the pots in the kitchen or not cooking food for that entire day, that’s what they can do until their god gifted patience. But men are different, the attachment of their conscious body becomes weaker and they found using their physical body rather using the mind."
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Anger management is a very difficult task


There are two types of anger in our society I can see people who can’t burn the anger, they finish themself and one who burns it with finishing others. There is a loss at both the side. Both of them use no part of the brain.

Those who finish himself I call it a suicide and one who kills others, they are rapist, murderer etc. There is a lack of knowledge and lack of understanding. To increase it, we have to talk to ourself not in front of the mirror, closing our eyes and speak to your soul and make friendship. That friend who becomes closer to you will never leave you alone in your difficult situations.

When Frustration limit reaches


Any frustration has limit whether it is an animal like an elephant or a sacred human, saint. Sacred people have an infinite limit that will take a thousand times more than an average human being. It is only developed by your strongest friendship with your soul and that becomes difficult to break the connection between your soul and physical body.

If you are talking about how the animal does in this case, they have very less limit to reaches, maybe a thousand times lesser than a man. That is why simply they have no patience at all, quickly attach on you except trained animals.

Different Techniques of Anger management


I have seen some people like our dear women mostly brake few things in the house, like pot, don’t go to the office, no cooking, swimming, running, some men got bad habits like drink or smoke. Cruel human hit someone, commit fraud, go to jail and dangerous human killed someone or himself/herself. All who are not able to manage they brake or finish the life.

What I do in this situation


It never had been any worst thing so far in my life, I got some bad habits like smoking, it triggers drinking sometimes. But in the end, it is manageable and my bad habits are like air human gas, sometimes comes and goes. It never rested for the rest of my life.

Whenever I caught in this situation, I go away from home and spend some quality lonely time. I never take a decision at that time. I keep myself quite or want a bit longer break alone in the bedroom so that I can compose the things very well. When my wife seat sadly at the nook from the recent worst conversation, I simply go to her and make her smile - it is our rule of each-other to take a lead any one of us and bring happiness. This is how life is and should be wanted to be. A self-centred person faces difficulties maintaining the relationship. I believe this is the life. And it works very well every time.

Upset mind triggers something annoying to your partner suddenly and ruined the day

Life is full of reasons for those who give you excuses… it happens to say when you are an empty mind or have nothing to say when you are trapped. This is an absolute sign that makes us vulnerable to fight, stressed and unhappy leading life. There has to be stopped immediately or else this will increase to don’t know at what extent and ultimately the lives at risk.

Life is full of reasons for those who give you excuses… it happens to say when you are an empty mind or have nothing to say when you are trapped. This is an absolute sign that makes us vulnerable to fight, stressed and unhappy leading life. There has to be stopped immediately or else this will increase to don’t know at what extent and ultimately the lives at risk.


Irritating mind while driving is not safe


If you are going to buy something for your loved ones, especially going shopping while starting off or on the way if something annoying thing happens between family in the car - a conversation. If your partner keeps shouting unnecessary without knowing the fact in terms of sacrifice economically. Definitely, your anger will rise and if you are calm then that is okay but for those who are not ready to listen like me then what? You will keep shouting at her/him and this leads to a big fight.

Composing the situation


Next person does not know the fact and you start shouting, explaining with full of anger while you drive. How that drive and shopping would be so good and successful for all of you? Better you should stop the car right there and go back home and sleep or go alone somewhere you love a rest just to compose the situation better.

This is nothing but a negative energy time and if you don’t and keep your journey on. The conversation has no early stop, it will keep going and going until some positive things does not hit.

The positive conversation needs to be a start


To ease the anger, something positive needs to bring in the conversation and that either husband or wife or your kids. This is the best time to bring up the long-pending appreciations which were not been called off in months. Trust me the unhappy moods will vanish like anything. Someone has to take, better if you are the right person what you were saying, you first start. Because at that time the person full of bullshit excuses have no place in his/her mind to think about positivity, they are expert in giving reasons only. You have to start first.

Have you seen somebody illiterate bossing knowledgeable person? Never let it happen. If it happened with you then you are a coward

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My dear friends, how are you? Hope you are all doing well.

Most of us start our professional careers and somewhere we have our manager or team leader in life. Don’t worry if you are a housewife, and you have been a great leader of the family that’s quite awesome. But most of the families have clashes between MIL and DIL.

"In my office, recently one of my TL said that never let illiterate bossing on you if you think you have more knowledge."

Most of the time an organisation hires TL’s and managers who have good knowledge of handling team members but have no product knowledge.


Many managers failed at their task when they have less product idea. Imagine if your manager keeps you shouting on the silly mistakes. Those mistakes that have less important but then you caught by your TL or manager who has no product knowledge then what you will do, you think? You will give no importance because you work every day you had assigned and done your production on time and at the end of the day if your boss shouts at you on silly mistakes then definitely you will get angry and next day onwards you will stop doing extra work.

Who would be the best manager according to you?


One who has well product information and the one who has good people management skills? I believe, the one who has a grasp on both the side. In the service industry, it is equally important.

In a family, if it is happening to a newly wedded woman trying to teach MIL who is well experienced in her life then it is wrong and I blame MIL for that reason. Without having knowledge shouting on someone who is respected in the family, bringing such a situation is the fault of the experienced one.

You must be confused about what I mean to say exactly? If the expert person does not know how to handle the situation then illiterate definitely teach you irrespective of the position and power.

This has happened to one of my friend who was working in IBM, He has been a subject matter expert and doing his work with pride. Suddenly his manager got a new job and all his efforts he had put for his next level went in ruined. When his new manager taken his first meeting, he introduces his people management skills. He had been in the management field for seven years and received the best manager award in 2018.

My friend had observed that he got a different attitude and felt it was difficult to understand him. While in the meeting his mobile was not on the silent mode and thus he shouted in front of all the team members.
He immediately left the meeting and send an email subjected, Resignation Letter he had felt a public shame and his credit lost. He was sure that this new manager is not going to promote him to the next level. After he resigned, he was jobless for the next six months and he had to join another company on the same level.

What had happened here?


The situation created by only my friend, he suffered. He did not even get a chance to know his manager. Having a product knowledge does not help, you must have a grasp on management. It is a very crucial part of any corporate job. Maybe my friend had good knowledge of what he is doing but if you are not able to handle people, situation and the client then it is difficult for you to crack down on the next level.

Temper Has A Short Time, But If You are Not able To Win Over, It Would Ruin Your Life

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That day was very sad, it was started with silent wake up in the early coldest morning of the week. I went office by bicycle on that foggy day. If something strange happens, it follows the entire day like that only. I only go to the office by motorbike only when I have fast for that day. I was strongly and badly sad. My wife did not wake up from the bed as there was a small fight over the last night. I was damn sure that





That is an ugly fact? When couples sleep apart on the bed facing back, we try a lot to get into sleep but always failed and it is a problem of both. We never fall asleep easily for almost 1-2 hours, Our brain keeps running behind the random right and wrong. It keeps running wild thoughts in our head. Sometimes pulling blanket, it does by one who regrets teasing and after sometimes, it ends into laughter and then we meet and a hug again brings us closer.

That day last night fight was too ugly like a cold war and we both were sad, it was my wife's fault or not I was not sure. After working with my silent behaviours in the office with my sad look, behind my smile, my close friend could easily find how much unhappy I am. Sometimes the front of management I have to keep all the worries and problems besides and focus on the allocated work.

After my shift ends, I went home. I thought that I will work late evening and then go home. But I couldn't resist that. I reached home and heard my wife from the kitchen.

I thought She must have been cooking food thinking my husband must be hungry. it brought a smile on my face. But after parking my bicycle in the hall, I brought my face back to silent look.

It was for the first time without telling her she placed a potful of water on the induction for heating. I usually get a bath at around 4-5 pm when I return home. When I ride the bicycle, a lot of sweat wet my clothes. So I bath twice in a day. While she went into the washroom across the hall but we did not look into each other's eyes, just blindly ignored by both of us.

Upon experiencing this, I felt very bad again and after that, she left into the kitchen. She was still cooking food. I switched on TV and fan. I thought water is getting ready for a bath till the time I should watch Television. There was a quiet silence across the house. As the TV suddenly started bouncing its sound on the walls and ears, my daughter came near me and spoke, BABA (A famous name in Maharashtra for calling father) Looking at her face I wore again my smile and happy face thinking what she did wrong?

The wife crossed me taking warmed water into the bathroom even this time without even a glance at me and emptied it into the regular bucket for the bath. I went in and while bath my daughter came inside and started playing with the water. She loves taking bath even if it is more than five times a day. As her mother heard, she came and took her to the kitchen. At that time also we did not speak a word and not even for a single second we look into each other's eyes. I thought that I will not speak even today and sleep the same as we did yesterday. While bath, I was thinking that I will not eat and will go to sleep without having food.

I came back to the hall wearing my night pant and a t-shirt and sat at the same place I was watching TV, I quickly got surprised.

the surprise was unexpected and for a moment from I entered the house I never thought that this will happen. My wife walked into the hall with a Thali in hand. It was freshly cooked food and the special thing was she had a broad smile looking into my eyes. Thali has extra food as you can say, it was my favourite food. Two curries, Cumin-rice, Ghee flavoured cooked lentil.

My smile was slowly gearing up and was responding cooperatively and within no time it turned into a laugh. The laughing was strongly agreed with her. And she sat beside me with a surrendering look, it was the longest laugh of the day. Then she hugged me and gave me a kiss and I returned the same. The feelings that evoke in me was different. A tear of love appeared quickly on my cheek. It happens only for your loved one. It happened for the first time in life that a smile can be a witness to a big fight. Within a second that hateful face turned into a loving one.

"It was a clear cut example that love only add love and hate only contribute hate"

In Hate, if you add some love it becomes completely Love and If you add hate in Love then it becomes Hate. So Hate gives hate and love gives love, as simple as it is.

One thing I learned when someone smile, it does not matter how sad you are, you give definitely a smile back and that's the nature's law. If my wife thought not to smile and give me food. I would have enjoyed on my own but a smile brought the happiness on my face. That one smile gave me a lesson. When anybody you found is sad or angry then you should start with a smile. If it happens with your spouse then this is the best thing to start.

This will help you stop fighting and spread the love more...

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Keep limit on accepting an expensive gift from your relatives, it may cause an end to your relationship

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Accepting the expensive gift from your relative on your forceful insist how long is a good thing? Especially it is from the person who is rich than you. First time if you are accepting it from that moment you feel some financial burden from that person in the back of your mind. When your turn comes gift to the same person, you fill guilty about it when you are not able to give him/her same expensive gift. If you give the gift of even a penny cheaper, your friends and relations are under danger. There is a chance of losing that connection maybe forever.


It happened to me once, I would like to share this experience with you guys and need to understand how it was painful for me. But I have seen many of them keep continue to accept it, but they knew how to return with the pleasure. Few of them turn down in relationship permanent.

Back in my college days, I was denied going to Goa for zoo practical. It was a compulsion from the University of Pune. Some of my friends contributed individually and asked me to come for compulsory Zoo practical as it was great 10% of marks for the final exam. That time I was under a program, earning and learning in my life.

When days pass, one of my friend’s birthdays came, I did not get time to attend those due to busy office schedule, even I couldn’t get off for that day. Next day I visit his house for wishing belated happy birthday and present him. He unwrapped the gift, and show an unpleasant smile looking at the gift. It was a clear indication that he was not happy on my visit and accepting the gift. His behaviour got changed within the few minutes and I never remember that he ever called me. I called him many times but he did not receive the call or never return my missed call and messages.

If the understanding comes by maturity then how maturity comes from adjustments?


Today’s children




Today’s children  MaturityWhen I see the young generation deal smartly, they capture the words fast while earning language. I wonder how and what genes they got transmitted and from where? Some kids are at times so stubborn and some are very calm. Suppose, you are in a market and your kid saw something, liked it, they won’t leave you without buying that. They keep insisting, pressurising and they left no option with you.  Money taught you anything in this world.   If you wish to buy a shirt for you and you don’t have that much cash, inside of you, force yourself for getting a job and earn if you are not an earning, this happens just because of your wish to complete. Something that you decided on, and you have no sufficient amount to purchase, you get learning that a job is must to survive in this world.  Suppose my mother is ill and I need medicines, I will get only a half quantity because I had no money. Here money taught me how important the money is. This gradually makes me aware and thus my understanding increases potentially.  In fact, such understanding comes in front of us with the time, bad one actually teaches us. Making our child aware of such a situation is very important nowadays, it can trigger his/her understanding level.  Here is my example, how adjustment comes.   We are four members living together, in rainy and winter seasons are difficult to bath without having a bucket of hot water. When there is too much of the cold, I make hot water for my bath but sometimes I can manage with room temperature water. Here comes understanding as I am the only one earning here and still in our society the solar panel for water heating yet not fitted as it is a newly constructed building. In the back of my mind, I know very well that I have to pay the electricity bill. But other members of my family keep heating the water every day in the cold weather. I always make sure this but not others because they have not gone through such memories that wake up them and brings this understanding.     About Me Hi  This is Lokesh Umak  Read more    Like Parento Today    Join our subscribers, get an email from Parento Today to your mailbox, you can unsubscribe at any time.     Enter your email address   Subscribe   Follow @parentotoday Support Us It is very hard to spend hours writing and updating this site, and we have to spend a lot of money to exist Parento Today online. We need your support by making a one-time payment or set a monthly donation.  Pay one time or set monthly donationWhen I see the young generation deal smartly, they capture the words fast while learning language. 

I wonder how and what genes they got transmitted and from where? Some kids are at times so stubborn and some are very calm. 
Assume, you are in a market and your kid saw something, liked it, they won’t leave you without buying that. They keep insisting, pressurising and they left no option with you.

Money taught you anything in this world.



If you wish to buy a shirt for you and you don’t have that much cash, inside of you, force yourself for getting a job and earn if you are not an earning, this happens just because of your wish to complete. Something that you decided on, and you have no sufficient amount to purchase, you get learning that a job is must to survive in this world.
Suppose my mother is ill and I need medicines, I will get only a half quantity because I had no money. Here money taught me how important the money is. This gradually makes me aware and thus my understanding increases potentially.
In fact, such understanding comes in front of us with the time, bad one actually teaches us. Making our child aware of such a situation is very important nowadays, it can trigger his/her understanding level.


Here is my example, how adjustment comes.



We are four members living together, in rainy and winter seasons are difficult to bath without having a bucket of hot water. When there is too much of the cold, I make hot water for my bath but sometimes I can manage with room temperature water. 
Here comes understanding as I am the only one earning here and still in our society the solar panel for water heating yet not fitted as it is a newly constructed building. In the back of my mind, I know very well that I have to pay the electricity bill. 
But other members of my family keep heating the water every day in the cold weather. I always make sure this but not others because they have not gone through such memories that wake up them and brings this understanding.

It was all ruined 8 months of hard-work, we thought. But at the time of baby delivery we found lucky couple

At the end of the 8th month of my wife's pregnancy, we were advised by our doctor to get Ultrasonography report from our regular lab. We both were excited and eager to know our final date of delivery. After waiting for one and a half hours, finally our turn came and we had done in max 10 minutes. After we got feedback, we were relaxed and went home hearing the final date of our warm welcoming baby is going to be safe and worry-free

The doctor had said that "the foetus has adequate liquid and everything is normal."

After revisit of our doctor, he also confirms that all is well and it is going to be a normal delivery. Thus we got relaxed, we withdrew all the tensions and regular habits what we were doing from the 1st month. The long-awaited day came soon and minor check-up after two days delay of the actual date. My wife couldn't push further, all she was doing, crying with pain whenever specialists visit her and try their level best.

After two-three trials they failed and called me to their cabin asking, "we need to do scissor immediate, let me know within half and an hour." These words left me completely lost and sweating alone. The reason was the only one – "There is no liquid." Listening to his I was surprised. Only one question I had was, why I had stopped our daily routine? That we had stopped on the 8th month onwards. It was including (Watching daily intake of regular water, coconut water twice-thrice in a week, careful exercise, strictly no ride on the bike).

Thanks to God when the baby was delivered safely, the doctor said,

"Baby was strangled by the umbilical cord."

What I wanted to say here is, don't wait for such surprise, waste your time and money.

LU, love.


One best way for releasing anger in one minute over the conversation from your office boss, this helped me a lot in my professional life

"Are you afraid of your boss and don't know how to handle that bothering moment when a sudden meeting addressed by your TL or manager?"


This is not a surprising question for you, must have had many meetings with your manager and team leader. Angry people have done many fights over the conversation and many ended in resigning the job in front of me. When two angry people meet, the topic of conversation keeps on going until the depth of the solution.


Nobody likes bossing, no one yet loved their manager, somewhere someone by now must-have in your head. It had also happened to me when I was working in one of the BPO. My manager was a drinker, fat-like buffalo and always takes the side of his favourite people, looking at his face I always sensed a fear of short-tempered from all his activities. Were newly joined folks and many things had started expecting from us right after our training finished.

In our organisation, we are not supposed to take leaves for the next six months that was a rule announced at the time of offer letter.


I already had worked for more than six months. It was a Diwali in the next two days and I had already planned my leaves and mail was circulated to my TL and managers one month in advance. Before two days starting Diwali vacation, a sudden call from AVP hit my mailbox and the entire floor was gathered too. It was an announcement of no leaves on Diwali before that favourite people used to get weekend working and were earning double amount.

It was too much of pain when someone had already planned the leaves and sudden you received an email from your TL that your leaves had cancelled. 


I was sure about favouritism here too, I got up from my desk and went straight to my TL and asked the reason. He suddenly got up from the chair and started shouting,
"You guys are not doing production, you leaving the work undone. It was not expected and you have to finish the work today and then go home."

His voice was too loud that what I wanted to discuss was kept aside and he kept shouting. What I did, you will be surprised. Front of him, I simply closed my eyes, listen to him carefully nodding my head I came back at my desk.
I can't tell you how I was frustrated and irritated.

Immediately I came to my desk and composed a letter, my resignation letter. But then I got a call from my parents and asked me to transfer urgent cash. I realised right there that this job is so important to me.

I closed my eyes and imagine his awkward face looked like a joker and his ugly teeth and bad pronunciation that did not suit at all. and laughed out loud. Within a minute I got to refresh and my anger vanished in a minute. All-day I kept watching his face like that and laughing. That time passed and I take it in a positive way and things changed.

Do we need education to be happen first in our mother tongue? Most of the Indian parents are confused

India is a country still quality of education is insufficiency. Many villages have not yet acquainted with all the basic facilities of schools, children lacking awareness of education. Most of the children find schools as equal to jail.

The biggest question in front of parents in India

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Nowadays Indian parents are confused and looking for a solution, they are not mentally and economically ready to send their children to the convent schools. I am a father, want my kid should know, mother tongue must be taught first. The language she was born with she must not forget for the rest of her life.

She should be excel in that language. English is top amongst the others and is widely used everywhere, you can call it the second language in the world.

As a parent, we can not throw our children directly to learn English. Now every institution in India from nursery to college, all the education started in English. We are afraid of losing our culture, mother-tongue, rituals. All are coming from western countries. What I thought, learning the cultures of other foreigners are good to know but not acquired. If you are adapting it then what will be the use of Indian. If it continues the same way then one day, the existence of India will not be found after a few decades.

What is the role of government school teachers?


When I was a student at Zilha Parishad school, I used to force by teachers to learn. At any point on a single day, if I missed my homework, the teachers used to punish us by slapping or hitting wooden stick on the bare palms. The student got such punishments many times because there was a sole reason for that ― One of the reasons, our parents were illiterate and thus they never complaint why are you hitting our kids. We had no clue that time how education would be so important? But being a parent of a kid, now we know it very well how difficult it is to give education to our child economically and physically.

Teachers are doing a good job, they go to every family of the village, ask for new admissions for free but some of the things are still missing in the school. Teachers at ZP government school enjoy sleeping in class and give students the period off a few complaints. They do the hard work for admissions to save their job but quality teaching still missing.

The teachers like to send their kids to convents, thus other parents wonder why their children should go to ZP schools.

Future of the country


ZP schools are state-oriented and provide education as per the language of the state since India is a multilingual country. Every school has their own mother language compulsory. If these schools replace by convent schools, the language would definitely be going to extinguish permanent for sure. This is the major issue and we all need to focus on this. Teachers need to take initiatives because they build the future of the country.

Difficult and busy urban life sucks


When middle-class reach out to take education to ZP school, education is free but it’s very cheap. I mean that some of the facility and quality does not fulfil today’s need for education level. In villages, both husband and wife go to the farm, it is a bit easier for them to get kids ready for school and while back home from the farm, it’s easy to collect them or at least they have grandparents taking care to receive them at home.

But what about urban life? Here both parents go to the office and not necessary that school will be closer to the house. It is far away, maybe 3-5 km, office time does not suit at all. None of the government school provides transport facility so that kids could be picked up from the home and drop them back without worries. It becomes quite difficult to choose ZP school and we tend to go to private schools and that is one of the reasons for financial crises.

Many complaints about the school teacher


There were days when there were no complaints at home from the school teacher, but if you think today if any single slap on the student would take teacher’s job away for permanent. I agree due to some of the teachers it was banned in India and for today’s generation, it does not at all tolerated.

Scope of improvements


There are few scopes of improvements in ZP school then it will look great schools to Indian and thus these amendments have been done, the middle-class public will never hesitate to send their child to the school.

The transportation must keep for optional as due to crowded and busy city life, no one has enough time to send and receive kids because of odd office timings.

CCTV cameras must be present in the class for the beta watch, it will help students stop fighting with others, teachers to stop timepass and focus on teaching and easy for monitoring overall adherence in the class.

Cultural activities, Soft skills training and Fun Friday are stress relieving and bring joyful environments. These evoke interest in the students and find a better place to come every day.

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